Tuesday, June 21, 2011
Chapter 232:
at 19:44
Day 42.
Dearest D, can you hear me? Can you hear us?
Today I truly realised the gap between us. The infinite amount of space between us.
Are you further than Mars, Venus or Jupiter? Or are you just by the clouds?
As much as I speak as though you're still here I know you're not.
Yet, I can't speak as though it's all in the past 'cause these are still swirling in my heart & mind. I don't want to forget but I really fear the day your voice evades me.
Where are you?
Sunday, June 19, 2011
Chapter 231:
at 21:30
I get so exasperated when you derive a life principle & share it with others & they doubt it.
Hello, this is not read off a book, it's what I learnt in life by experiencing it in flesh.
Who are you to disprove that?
Take for example, I strongly believe that when a couple get married & have children in future, the couple should never ever revolve around the children solely.
I am not saying love your children less, nor that you neglect them. I am asking you to still place your husband/wife as priority.
It doesn't mean spending less time with the children than the husband/wife.
Think: if you suddenly have extra commitments, it merely means you have less time spent with your husband, but it doesn't mean you get lazy and refuse to do tasks for him, love him less, let him fade out of your caring vicinity.
That's the logic!
I find it sad that a couple in love slowly diverge over the course of 20 years 'cause they had devoted so much to the children.
(More often than not, it would be only a party doing it & the other party left neglected & then learning to live without him/her and just get on with life.)
And guess what happens after 20 years, when your children have grown up? When they no longer have time for you? Do you still hold on to them so tightly and become burdens of theirs?
Do you?
Or do you spend happy and enjoyable time with your husbands/wife, being happy together just retiring and travelling around the world?
Think about it, how do you mend a relationship 20 years gone? How do you spend day after day with him/her when the love is lost? How does the marriage even works whenn it was based on the children, now that they have grown up?
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I used to see this daily in action. This is what I've learnt.
Do you dare tell me you disagree?
Of course, I am sparing you the details. You can tell me you see it too, and you want the opposite. ARE YOU SURE WHAT YOU HAVE SEEN IS WHAT I HAVE? Don't ever assume that you know what I feel, what I've seen, what I've experience.
All I can say is, trust me. Never let the children shift the focus of your marriage. You got married 'cause you love each other, and are able to take the commitments of raising kids together. You didn't get married just to have children.
Indeed, having children is a new responsibility. It is a serious commitment. Guess what? This is life, cope with it. Think of the love you fought for, the years you spent.
Are you sure this is what you want? To the point silence is not companionable, but the norm 'cause there's just nothing left to talk about.
Imagine 20 years of raising children but no dating at all. How are you going to do that when you're 50/60 years old?
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I truly believe that when parents are loving, they build a home filled with love.
The kids do not need to choose sides to stand on, and it's such a joy not to have to do that 'cause you know what? When both parties are your parents, how do you choose?
A loving home is just what a child needs.
If you love your husband/wife enough, you'll love the child enough 'cause as much as the child is yours, it's theirs too.
Let the children revolve around your happy marriage. Let them believe that love is possible. Let them know that as long as you work for it, love is there for you to grab on to.
'cause you know what?
Every child deserves to hope.
Sunday, June 5, 2011
Chapter 230:
at 00:28
Recently, there's this initiative to organise a class outing by my JC class chairman, or rather, chairwoman. I salute her for the effort.
Responses, are at best lukewarm, or just plain silent that it's depressing.
& to illustrate the difference, boys in our class actually organised many outings by themselves. Nope, I am not jealous 'cause the girls do meet up on our own & seriously, the former are never the best company (Ooops, but well, this thought is mutual I guess?).
But you know? When I see that they actually made the effort to invite our class CT & not the girls along too, it's half-exasperating & half-disgusting. I thought guys were suppose to be gracious & not so downright rude! It's like a conscious thought to exclude people, which they are so good at, isn't it?
I admit that the class has always been gender-segregated, or even more split up 'cause the girls themselves are not even a united front. But I absolutely hate it when things get obvious, and distinct. Can't you even have the decency to invite? If we reject, it's another issue, no?
GOSH. I CANNOT UNDERSTAND HOW GUYS CAN DO SUCH THINGS!!!
I am saddened by the fact that my past 2 years was spent in such a class. Nobody expects love from you guys, but at least learn to be gentlemen.
I don't like how you people judge the girls in the class.
Don't like how you people can make the effort to get to know prettier and cooler girls outside of our class than the effort to know us a little more.
I am just so disgusted with such people.
Note: Even if the notion to NOT invite the girls are suggested by the few assholes who constantly judged the girls (who we all know they deem themselves too cool when they're not) I am equally disappointed that other guys go along with it. By accepting & going with the flow suggest that 1. you have no strong stand, & that 2. you are also disgusting.
Just very sad/disappointed that the class turns out to be this way. Newer Posts
