Wednesday, November 24, 2010
Chapter 155:
at 00:34
Large topic I'm gonna rant about today.
Adoption.
A few years back, I had this goal in mind - for every one kid I give birth to, I adopt one.
(I recalled mentioning it in just-15.bs.com)
I figured that life's about experiencing, & since childbirth appears to be a great leap to maternity for many, why not?
Yet, there's this nagging thought that since there's so many orphans in the world, why create more children when you can actually feed and provide for the ones already in the world.
These are children who are helpless with regard to their lots in life.
They have not done anything at all to land themselves in such plight.
Children who did not have a choice, unlike you and I, in the life they could lead.
While many of us are pondering which university course to take, which university to enter, or which country to embark our academic pursues in, they have ABSOLUTE no choice at all.
No, I am not implying that we do not deserve all that we have; our parents tolled hard to allow us these choices.
But, you must understand, I insist that no children deserve any less just based on birthrights.
& to me, I see no difference in children simply based on race, or genes.
Other differences, to me, are merely accumulated through their childhood.
So, does it really matter that your child developed from the division of a zygote which is a fusion of YOU and YOUR SPOUSES' gametes?
It matters?
I think not.
I agree, nature affects. But nurture too.
& it's not as though we are in complete control of the complete genetic make up of the kid after all right?
So tell me, why does it matter so much?
Does inheritance of 50% of your chromosomes, hence part of your "blood" renders it your child?
Is biological relationship so superior and almighty?
I can't understand the resounding "No"s I get from people when adoption is mentioned.
When you can jolly well provide for a young one, why must it be someone you specially pro-created?
Why not give this opportunity to someone, who will DEFINITELY be deprived of this chance?
I am really indignant about this!
.
On another note, someone told me that adoption would only be a choice if he/she was infertile.
Wait a minute there.
What caused the change of attitude towards adoption?
It's actually extremely selfish in a way.
You want a child.
If fertile, who cares for orphans?
But now, oooh, infertile - Hey, adoption seems appropriate now!
That's frickkin' self-serving and downright convenient, no?!
He/she is totally not thinking/considering the interest of this young one, but only cater to his need just when it neatly coincide with theirs!
That's not how it is!
While you are happily living life, they're still be deprived of a proper one, no?
One is merely using them as tools to fulfill their desire to become parents, no?
Sigh.
.
I am not agreeing that all should adopt children as mindsets of people are just not apt!
But what I am questioning is the deeply ingrained sentiment that is so against adoption. (which can conveniently change upon news of infertility.)
Explanation, people?
. Newer Posts
